Don’t Heal Em’…They Don’t Wanna be Healed! #TristaDaniell

Not every person desires healing. Some prefer to be wounded because wounds create sympathy and sympathy, attention. The addiction to attention in this world is such that some will go the the extreme to ensure attention remains on them - even if that means suffering. For some, the pleasure is in the attention that's showered … Continue reading Don’t Heal Em’…They Don’t Wanna be Healed! #TristaDaniell

#StopTheGuiltTrips by #TristaDaniell

The ONLY people who get upset with you for reserving your energy to invest in your goals are those who, more often than not, failed to reserve energy to invest in their own. Envy and insecurity manifest in many forms. Pay attention. You ever wanna know if someone really supports you, listen to what they … Continue reading #StopTheGuiltTrips by #TristaDaniell

Black [Sheep] & Proud by #TristaDaniell

My entire life has been OBSESSED with "fitting in". I was that #awkwardblackgirl in school. I was NOT popular. I was NOT invited to parties. I had very FEW friends. While I was semi-popular in the church youth group, it was a small church and I knew how to "play the game" to get the … Continue reading Black [Sheep] & Proud by #TristaDaniell

This Post is Gay: You know you wanna read it. 😏

I've seen waaaaay too much LGBT hate on my timeline and I am not for it. I stepped back from talking about LGBT issues, the Black community, and the church (specifically, predominantly Black churches), but maybe I need to start speaking again. Cause what y'all WON'T do is tell people like me we not welcome, … Continue reading This Post is Gay: You know you wanna read it. 😏

This ain’t no damn beauty pageant!

A couple of weeks ago I came across a post from the singer/dancer Ciara. Under the post, several people commented on how beautiful she is and many agreed. Then, one person turned the convo by comparing her to Beyonce.... From there, people began to argue sbout which of these beautiful black women was "better" based … Continue reading This ain’t no damn beauty pageant!

Shut THA $%!@*&^ UP, SOMETIMES…GEESH 🙄 #TristaDaniell

We LOVE shutting someone else up (or down) but let someone tell us we need to be quiet and watch the bulk of us react like bratty little toddlers who saw their mom giving another kid attention. Lord forbid!! 🙄 Most of the drama/setbacks in our lives start with someone's mouth; and much too often, … Continue reading Shut THA $%!@*&^ UP, SOMETIMES…GEESH 🙄 #TristaDaniell

We care…for a moment.

Your highs and lows are just that - yours. People will celebrate with you, for a moment. People will mourn with you, for a second. But, quickly, they'll move on....and they'll hope you do too...(or atleast shut up talking about it). Don't take it personal. Such is life. Most of us don't have the bandwidth … Continue reading We care…for a moment.

I Didn’t Survive #RKelly, but I survived so many like him….

I applaud John Legend for his willingness to speak out. I hope more men follow his lead. It angers me to hear how many men (and older women) around #rkelly had opportunities to (at minimum) report him to authorities and/or get these girls away, warn these parents, etc....and they didn't. A little of my story … Continue reading I Didn’t Survive #RKelly, but I survived so many like him….

Rant: Misery loves company, but I ain’t the one. #TristaDaniell

If you get into it with people EVERYWHERE YOU GO.....stop blaming them people sweet baby....it's you. YOU. YOUUUUU!!! Being mad and combative all the time is immature and ignorant. Get some emotional intelligence/maturity and grow tf up. Some of you adults throw temper tantrums worse than these kids....like I tell Zyan, YOUR ATTITUDE (OR TEMPER) … Continue reading Rant: Misery loves company, but I ain’t the one. #TristaDaniell

The Lies We Tell

I try to avoid lying whenever I can. I believe that whole "honesty is the best policy" thing embedded in our heads as children primarily because I got my 🤬 beat for telling "little" lies enough to develop an aversion to lying - or so I thought. Recently in self-reflection, I was mulling about being … Continue reading The Lies We Tell