To The Sista Who Feels She Ain’t Good Enough #BlackGirlMagic





STOP passing up opportunities because you’re afraid you’re not “good enough”. Those who get ahead get there because they refuse to allow anything – fear, lack of skills, lack of funds, lack of confidence, social lives, families, spouses, current jobs, anything – else hold them back.

You can’t blame others for your lack of success when you refuse to even try! 

I’ve launched a thousand businesses that have failed (epically!); but, at least I can say I tried (and learned a lot in the process). 

I work in circles that connect me with some extremely successful African American women. A few things they all have in common: 

  • they are unapologetic in their focus on their success, 
  • they move forward in the midst of fear, 
  • they refuse self doubt (REFUSE),
  • they DO NOT entertain distractions.

These sisters are FOCUSED in their efforts and methodical in their decisions making. They don’t spend time going over all the reasons they can’t do something, they focus on  what they need to do make it happen – even if that means learning a new skill, or building a team.

They absolutely refuse to settle. Too many of our sisters have. 
Stop merely talking about your dreams. Take the appropriate steps to make your dreams a reality. See your obstacles as action items, sit down and work out the things you need to do to make those obstacles disappear. Connect with people who will encourage, inspire, and help you along the way. 

Finally, don’t turn your nose up at humble beginnings. Learn the value of starting from the bottom and working your way to the top. We celebrate the success of women like Beyonce, Oprah, Serena Williams, but we forget about the YEARS of hard work, sacrifice and struggle that preceded the greatness.

And YOU, my sister, ARE GREAT! 

Your ideas are valuable.

Your skills are competitive. 

Your brains are brilliant! 

Believe in yourself and the God who created you. 

I’m rooting for you, girl.

-Trista Daniell

11 thoughts on “To The Sista Who Feels She Ain’t Good Enough #BlackGirlMagic

  1. madamore says:

    Thank you so much Trista!! I wish I had seen this post a year ago. I notice because of social setbacks Black women especially tend to sit on their talents and that is so unfortunate to me. I have had to learn that by sitting on our talents we are depriving our world something great…our CONTRIBUTION. And our contribution can move mountains, save lives. Thank you for your contribution. I appreciate you so much. God Bless You.

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    • Trista Daniell says:

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write such an heartfelt comment. I always appreciate knowing my words touch someone as is the desire. I don’t think we celebrate ourselves enough, nor are we celebrated enough. I sometimes need to remind myself. 💜

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  2. madamore says:

    Don’t we all have to remind ourselves! The MAD Sweet thing about it all is that we also have people in this world like You who can remind us as well. You’re right we definitely DO NOT celebrate ourselves enough and I wonder what will it take for us to do so? Perhaps acknowledgement for being the great people that we are? More often? Isn’t it crazy that when we do celebrate ourselves that we are seen as narcissists or overly confident. We live in a MAD confused world.

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    • Trista Daniell says:

      Extremely confused! When I think about it, it upsets me so much. That’s why I just started trying to do my part. I realized there was so much already against us, it didn’t make sense for us to also be against one another. I can’t control what they do, but I can certainly control my own contribution.


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