I am seeing a growing number of people in the church boast about deleting, blocking and cutting people off who don’t serve them any purpose or enhance their lives. It is true YHWH will ask us to remove ourselves from individuals who threaten our spiritual walk or if we’re in a situation that causes physical harm. These days we’re cutting people off over frivolous disagreements, to prove petty points or just because we’re in our feelings about something that person did or didn’t do.
I was a huge proponent of doing this until YHWH allowed someone I considered a dear friend (who I admired as a strong woman of God) to do it to me without warning or explanation even when reached out to understand the issue. Being on the receiving side of a cutoff allowed me to understand how such behavior distorted the image of Christ I claimed. I recognized the wrong in this and repented.
Cutting people off who are not physically/mentally and/or spiritually damaging you or your life is a way to get back and inflict pain on said individual without actually getting your hands dirty. It is not acting in love. It is actually a passive aggressive way of trying to tell someone “You are no longer valid or important to my life and I no longer need you.” It also says “You were never valuable to my life” because the “cutting” symbolizes how disposable the person being cast aside is. Let’s be real, we block, delete and cut people off to let people know “you don’t matter”.
Study the Word in this area and ask God for truth. Look to the examples of Jesus who often interacted with those who hated Him. Judas betrayed Jesus to death and Jesus knew he’d do this….yet, Jesus didn’t block, delete,cut off and cast away….Christ looked His betrayer in the face and broke bread with him without a single change in His treatment of Judas.
He knew His “rock”, Peter, would deny Him three times as He entered into suffering, yet He continued to show Peter love right up to the very end. Then there’s that “love your enemies and do good to those who persecute you” command…ijs.
The very people He came to save requested freedom for a known murderer to ensure Christ would die. They mocked, spit, taunted and consistently shunned Him, His Truth and His ways….but did He say forget it, I’m not dying for you ungrateful people….No, He continued to be about His Father’s business of LOVE and sharing the Truth of The Way regardless of the behavior of others. Regardless how they treated Him.
Those who claim His name and follow The Way should do the same.
Let’s start calling out incorrect teaching of His Word. Followers of The Way [of Christ] are to love as He loves, even when…no ESPECIALLY when, it’s inconvenient. Loving those who love you back or make you “feel” good….well even non-believers do that. We are called to greater. Selah.
“…others were tortured and refused to be released, so that they might gain a greater resurrection. Some faced jeers and flogging, while still others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned; they were sawed in two; they were put to death by the sword. They went about in sheepskin and goatskins, destitute, persecuted and mistreated – the world was not worthy of them….” Hebrew 11:35-38.